We all have stories we tell ourselves. Maybe there was nobody there when you were a child so you vow to protect and be there no matter what. The intent is pure and coming from a place of love. However, when we take it too far and speak for our child, blame others or remove …
Sometimes I have felt so lost and no amount of praying, crying, pleading helped. There have been times, to this day, I just don't know why something happened and why I had to experience it the way I did. However, I know in my heart that there is a bigger picture, a larger picture I …
How many times do we look to see what our partner, spouse, daughter, son are doing/not doing? How many times do we get on their case? We all have moments of weakness, darkness, fears, sadness. So why is it so difficult to give the same compassion to those we love as we demand and expect …
Many times in our lives we may find ourselves in situations that question all of our decisions. Then one day we may get an "Ah ha" moment that brings such clarity and understanding. Because of these gifts, I remind myself of this wisdom during uncomfortable times. I remind myself that in that one precious moment …
For some of us, dealing with anxiety and/or depression has been a roller coaster ride for much of our lives. We are up, we are down. We are on, we are off. When we feel good we want to hang onto those feelings and never let them go, sometimes to our own detriment. I mean …
For so long I looked at certain traits in myself and I judged them. I told myself I needed to change. I told myself I needed to do better...be better. Until one day it clicked. All of these things I condemned in myself I realized were my gifts to the world. When I started to …
The us vs. them mentality just doesn't work and it leaves us in a perpetual state of victimhood and duality. It is much harder, yet more empowering and rewarding, when we take our issues directly to the source of our discontent and have a crucial conversation with positive intent. What positive intent means is this. …
A first grader was hunched over in the corner, extremely upset, during class, on and off. He felt that his buddy "hated him" because his buddy was playing with other students and had other friends now. His buddy even checked in on him but the student hid his face. While I reminded his buddy that …
I have always thought there was something wrong with me. The slightest pang or imbalance in my body would cause such intense anxiety and this in turn would create more physical ailments. All of our fears and even our wounds can eventually end up in our body. For instance, my stomach is generally the home …
I believe we have many soulmates...people we connect with in some way lifetime after lifetime. When I was 29, I made a conscious choice to attract to me the person I would spend my life with. He entered shortly, thereafter. After years of observing and experiencing what I did not want, I decided to write …
Kim Hiles, Author 