I am coming up on 20 years of marriage and 23 years together. In looking back, I am most grateful that Will didn't quit on me. I am most grateful for the mentors and teachers along the way. When I would cry my eyes out and blame him for this or that, I was guided …
If you feel uncomfortable and not really accepted in a group you are a part of, you may just not be with your people. I have felt like an outcast, not a part of, for most of my life. Sure, some of that has to do with self esteem and confidence and doing the work …
I once took a graduate course in Public Speaking. I remember a woman in my class going up to the podium to present her topic. And I remember her getting very quiet...she froze. You know...the kind of fear based blank out you can experience in front of a large audience? I have had my moments, …
Every day, it seems there is a person who catches another doing something wrong and posts it on social media. They don't even consider going to the individual and having a crucial conversation about it, where healing and understanding can happen. Honestly, I cannot even imagine growing up in this day and age. The mistakes …
We all have stories we tell ourselves. Maybe there was nobody there when you were a child so you vow to protect and be there no matter what. The intent is pure and coming from a place of love. However, when we take it too far and speak for our child, blame others or remove …
How many times have you had an issue with another and instead of going directly to that person, you vented to them or to another? Don't get me wrong, venting to a trusted source and getting to the root of your feelings is important...but you have to take the next step. Most of us are …
Throughout the years I've observed many a partnership failing because he/she was too this or that or not enough of this or that. Or simply, because the magic died. We have been together 22 years and I realize that it was never about my partner. It was always about me and my beliefs, thoughts …
How many times do we look to see what our partner, spouse, daughter, son are doing/not doing? How many times do we get on their case? We all have moments of weakness, darkness, fears, sadness. So why is it so difficult to give the same compassion to those we love as we demand and expect …
The us vs. them mentality just doesn't work and it leaves us in a perpetual state of victimhood and duality. It is much harder, yet more empowering and rewarding, when we take our issues directly to the source of our discontent and have a crucial conversation with positive intent. What positive intent means is this. …
The us vs. them mentality just doesn't work and it leaves us in a perpetual state of victimhood and duality. It is much harder, yet more empowering and rewarding, when we take our issues directly to the source of our discontent and have a crucial conversation with positive intent. What positive intent means is this. …
Kim Hiles, Author 