Kim Hiles

Relationships: Run From Intimacy

Relationships and friendships have mostly been a disaster. As a young girl, I preferred a close friend over many. However, jealousy, feelings of disappointment, sensitivity, feelings of unworth and not a part of, however, went hand in hand.   Whether friend or lover, the push, pull sense of wanting what I could not have and not …

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Let go of what other people think!

I used to be the classic people pleaser. I spent countless moments worried about what other people thought. If somebody thought ill of me, I spent time going around trying to fix it. I remember in College, a friend started saying things about me, to other friends, that weren’t true. It caused great anguish. I …

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Comparing Robs Us

Things will be going along. There is contentment, a type of surrendering peace, purpose, happiness and then one day we pause. Maybe we look at the smiles of the other couple too long . . . . Next thing you know, we are putting our relationship under a microscope, looking at every tiny and perceived …

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Just do a RE-DO!

Whether we are talking about children or our own partnerships, sometimes a major reaction/event can be as easy as doing a re-do. We all get triggered and sometimes find ourselves exploding over little things (in the grand scheme of life). It usually has its root in something much deeper. Possibly a deep seeded belief we …

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Kim and Will Soulmates

Relationships: The mirror

I am coming up on 20 years of marriage and 23 years together. In looking back, I am most grateful that Will didn’t quit on me. I am most grateful for the mentors and teachers along the way. When I would cry my eyes out and blame him for this or that, I was guided …

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Find your people

If you feel uncomfortable and not really accepted in a group you are a part of, you may just not be with your people. I have felt like an outcast, not a part of, for most of my life. Sure, some of that has to do with self esteem and confidence and doing the work …

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Every day, it seems there is a person who catches another doing something wrong and posts it on social media. They don’t even consider going to the individual and having a crucial conversation about it, where healing and understanding can happen. Honestly, I cannot even imagine growing up in this day and age. The mistakes …

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Let’s Empower our kids

We all have stories we tell ourselves. Maybe there was nobody there when you were a child so you vow to protect and be there no matter what. The intent is pure and coming from a place of love. However, when we take it too far and speak for our child, blame others or remove …

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