I believe we have many soulmates...people we connect with in some way lifetime after lifetime. When I was 29, I made a conscious choice to attract to me the person I would spend my life with. He entered shortly, thereafter. After years of observing and experiencing what I did not want, I decided to write …
Many times a person may come at you with negative intent. What this means is that a person thinks the worst about you, blames, attacks and assumes the worst. I have found that if you let it, the attack can leave you drained. If it goes around in your head, you are feeding the incident …
Most issues in the world have always had the "us against them" mentality. It starts young in a very competitive world. In fact, I recently got caught up with it myself, during the election. We are doing the same exact thing to each other. Are we really that different? Have we walked in their shoes? …
Like most people, I've been following the election with my very strong ideas and opinions and I voted last week. I've been very angry at a certain candidate but for various reasons my feelings have shifted from anger to sorrow. I cried for the pain that person must have to inflict such pain on others. …
I've often found myself amazed at how easily I can go into tunnel vision and see how my ideas are right and everyone else is wrong. It is so easy to be sucked into an us vs. them mentality. We do it all of the time: In politics. When we see someone doing something we …
Continue reading Duality, the shadow and the power of love….
Do you ever go home upset about something and your spouse tries to tell you what to do? His/her intent is to make you feel better but inside you want to scream. This is how children feel when they are not given true empathy and validation. Here is an example: “you really wanted that ice …
Many fear intimacy. The answer is simple. If we don't love ourselves completely, it is very difficult to love another. When I met my husband so long ago I was terrified. He was loving and kind. His love was so intense I thought there must be something wrong with him. Clearly, my tolerance for love …
The only one that can make me happy is ME! My husband, my family, nobody can make me happy but myself! My happiness is my responsibility and if ever I notice that I am getting angry at another because of what they are doing or not doing, it is a key that tells me, I …
When we give in to our child out of guilt, they actually internalize a feeling of “badness.” When we give in to our child because it is convenient – and we don’t want to deal with the conflict – we are building up resentment – which may come out later. Instead, make decisions that feel …
Composure is an important skill in parenting. It is important to model it and teach it to your child. If we can keep our cool in challenging times, we are modeling the same behavior in our children. Stress, lack of sleep and trigger thoughts are ingredients for aggression. Are you pampering and caring for yourself? …
Kim Hiles, Teacher & Author 