When I make that statement, it may not be what you think it means. It is not:

• Putting others first
• Pleasing others at the expense of yourself 
• Staying silent to keep the peace
• Feeling resentful but choosing to be outwardly  kind
• Allowing others to hurt you

When I say choose Love, I mean to:

• Speak truthfully and authentically, when calm
• Express feelings using “I” statements, not blame
• Take responsibility for your choices and where you are at in your life
• Do the hard work of forgiveness
• See yourself in others and vice versa
• Put yourself first and ask the question, “Who am I and what do I want?”
• Walk away
• Stay
• Love and accept yourself with sweetness. 
• Declare “I am enough.”